Every Friday I am going to feature a woman that I adore. They exude all the qualities of an Alpha Female and I want to dig into their lives to get some nuggets of knowledge to help us all live happier, healthier lives balancing life & work.
Definition of an Alpha Female
An Alpha Female is a powerful and assertive woman. Her confidence is due to being an intelligent and intellectual problem-solver. Being an Alpha Female is a State of Mind based on choosing ambition and being proud of it. She strives for a happy and healthy work/life harmony.
She is the brightest star in her constellation. When an Alpha Female stays true to their authentic selves and their missions they shine. An Alpha Female puts herself first because she deserves self-care and love. She knows that work/life harmony is found by staying true to your priorities and what makes you happy. She is never complacent about striving for better and nurtures relationships with all the people in her life.
Meet Veronica Grant!
What do you think of the definition and how are you an Alpha Female?
For a long time, I was anti-feminine because I thought that it meant being weak, passive, and needing someone to rely on. I resonate with your definition of the Alpha Female because over the past couple of years I’ve really come into my feminine space where I can be strong and powerful my work and personal life AND still lean into my feminine like taking care of myself, nurturing relationships, and finding balance in my life.
What are you most passionate about?
I’m super passionate about inspiring women to take ownership and responsibility for their lives. So many women believe they are a victim of their circumstances, and especially in my world of dating and relationships, many think they’re a victim to crappy relationships and emotionally unavailable men. From what I’ve seen (and my own experience is included in this too) many women believe that dating and relationships are a sheer numbers game and luck. But it’s not, and I’m super passionate about helping women take responsibility for their emotional well-being and responsibility for who they let into their life, and who they don’t. Women have so much more power than they give themselves credit for.
What does work/life harmony look like for you?
This is an interesting question for me, because, in a lot of ways, the work I do and my business is a lot of my self-care. I basically created my business for me. I tell stories on my blog and podcasts of things that I would’ve needed to hear when I struggling in relationships, but no one was talking about it. So finding harmony between my work life and personal life isn’t always easy because the work I do an extension of myself. So for me, finding harmony is about being able to pull myself away from work and be present with the people in my life. Not always talking about my business, and this has been huge, hiring out help so I don’t have to deal with so much of the admin has also been huge in finding harmony.
Share with us a time when work/life balance was out of wack?
When I wasn’t being a good partner to my fiancé (now husband). I don’t know if there was a specific moment, but I wasn’t holding my own weight in the relationship. We had just moved into together, I was glued to my computer 12+ hours a day, I was living like a slob, and even though he was cleaning and grocery shopping, I was upholding my end of the bargain. I wasn’t doing any of the cooking or laundry. This went on for a few months until it blew up into a big fight. It wasn’t just the relationship I wasn’t taking care of, it was also me. I wasn’t working out or eating healthy. That’s when I created a schedule, of when I’d work, when I’d cook/clean, and when I’d take care of myself. It’s always a work in progress, but not only do I feel better, our relationship is thriving!
How do you nourish yourself?
I eat 90% home-cooked meals, limit foods that make me feel gross but also allow myself to enjoy them so that they don’t become temptations. I move every day and make a point to have at least some time with Stevie without phones or TV distracting us.
What is your weekly fitness routine like?
Lately, I’ve gotten into a rhythm of alternating days between running and doing yoga. I LOVE Aaptiv to help me improve as a runner and to keep my runs interesting, and for yoga, I love YogaGlo if I don’t have time to go to a studio. I also occasionally do Erin Stutland’s Shrink Sessions, amazing workouts with positive mantras for a mind and body workout.
What are your daily habits for winding down at night and reducing stress?
This is still a work in a progress. I have my morning routine down to a T, but having a partner can make a bedtime routine tricky! But lately, I do try to turn off devices at least 30 minutes before bed, relax and chat with Stevie, and then put lavender essential oil in my diffuser as I read then drift off to sleep.
What are some pain points of being an Alpha Female that you have to problem solve for?
Sometimes people think I’m selfish or bitchy because I may say ‘no’ to things or do other things where I’m asking for my boundaries to be honored. The more I learn about personal space, energetic space, and boundaries, the more I see how much of our society lacks boundaries and how it’s expected to put yourself last. That’s the fastest path to resentment and burnout, so I refuse to fall into that. But, it is against the grain and some people doesn’t like that and judge me for it. Though interestingly, even if someone is initially put off by it, I find that more often than not, they tend to develop more respect for me and my time.
What is your definition of happiness?
Such a good question! Almost all of my clients tell me they want to be happy, but happy looks so so so different to everyone. Ultimately, I think happiness is feeling how you want to feel. It’s a state, rather than an emotion. So for me, being in a state of happiness is when I feel nourished, abundant, connected, and adventurous.